Did I miss my calling? What’s my purpose?

First and foremost, Thank you for all the support I have received so far on my blog. I highly appreciate every single comment (even the negative ones and I am not being sarcastic here). I appreciate the time everyone took to share my words with your friends and loved ones. I am forever grateful.

I apologize for my absence. I had a bad case of writer’s block. I want to make sure that everything I write is as transparent and relatable as the first. Anywho….let’s get to it!

 

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I often see people as well as myself trying to still figure out what their overall purpose in life is. Have you ever asked yourself this question? What’s my purpose? What am I really suppose to be doing?

Sometimes you find yourself dwelling on that thought. The thought of not knowing. Self doubt causing fears to arise allowing you to believe you are not ready to pursue your purpose. People consistently telling  you what you should and need to pursue does not help the situation what so ever. You are then forced to over think things and go down a different path that you did not begin for yourself. What makes matters worst you start wasting time thinking and doing things you wasn’t built to do.  Later, you will find yourself settling for what is told by others rather than what your inner being is telling you to do.

 

My story is simply this. I wanted to be a dentist in kindergarten. Later, I found out that I don’t like teeth like that so…yea. A big no to dentistry. I also wanted to pursue fashion design.. I wanted to be a fashion designer for barbie (lol). I drew clothes and created them for my babies using a CD software game. I often look back on that. I still think about that to this day. My mother pushed me to pursue interior design, so I did. I went to college in the interior design department butI was often mistaken for a fashion design major because of the way I dressed. Nope, I was an interior design major. A creative individual making C’s in color and composition and drafting. My rendering professor told me that I should become an illustrator because I put my heart and soul into my renderings. He also told other as well as myself that I needed to learn how to tone down my renderings but the other students needed to learn how to put themselves in their drawings like myself. It was a compliment to me. I knew how to do things others couldn’t seem to grasp. I was different, however I wasn’t fitting in this interior design world. Everything I  seemed to produce was not near to perfection as my professors wanted. In other words, I was too creative for interior design but perfect for interior decorating. Even during my internship, I was told I should be a sales rep and that I knew how to find ways to display home accessories. (Basically, you should sell for vendors and do some visual merchandising. Spoiler alert: visual merchandising is what I do now for a furniture company. Yes, I am pretty much the interior decorator but for a store.) Not something I wanted to hear during my senior year of college. A sales rep? Really? You gotta be kiddin’ me.

Long story short, I graduated college  Thank ya Laude with a  Bachelors degree in Home Furnishings because they closed down the interior design department.

 

Fast forward to the present, I am now being to told to start my own design consulting business and  pursue modeling. Even though, I work full time now and I am only a close to 30 year old woman that so happens to be too short to model. Eh, we will see people.

We are pushing it a bit with my age and height.

How do you find your purpose when others are constantly telling you what you should do?

There are ways to figuring out what you should be doing my simply listening to yourself. In my story, you will notice that I listened to some advice. I ran towards what seemed logical. I did not however let comments of other to dictate what I decided to do for myself. Listen to yourself. Listen to your intuition. Follow your gut. God gave us free will and our inner voice for a reason.

 

Do not listen to everything people say, but to some. Some advice given you have to take with a grain of salt. You have to pay attention to people’s motives. They may be giving you this advice to steer you in the wrong path. (In other words, steer you into the path THEY see you in). They could also be helping you find something that you do well. My professor said that I should consider becoming an illustrator because of something I did well. He was not saying ” You should not be an interior designer.” He was simply pin pointing something I did well. Also, things being said by others could be confirmation as to what you really need to be doing. Let’s just say, you prayed on something and a few days later someone points out “Girl/Gentlemen, you should be doing this!” God, could be using that person just to give you the confirmation that you needed. You just have to know when to listen and when to ignore.

 

When you figure out your purpose make sure to ask God for clarity. I do not believe in jumping into anything without confirmation from God. Finding your purpose is not easy. Fear will take over your mind causing you to doubt, but keeping God in that journey will insure you that everything will be okay.

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Your purpose is in something you naturally do. Something you are born with that others can not do as well as you. Are you doing what you love? or Are you doing what is comfortable? Your comfort zone is not a good place to be. If you are not challenging yourself you are not living in your purpose. If you are just clocking into a job and not fulfilling that gift that was given to you then you my friend are not living in your purpose. Your purpose may not just be one thing. It could be multiple things. Most of us are gifted in many things you just have to mentally decide to just do it. Everything you do well is not by consequence.

 

Where do you think I would be if I listened to what everyone said. Probably, a dentist like I wanted to be in kindergarten. Just because they made money. Even during college I was frown upon for choosing something in the arts to pursue but that was my purpose. I was born to create. I was born to inspire. I was born to serve while using the gifts God gave me. So the answer to the question I asked. “Am I living in my purpose?” Yes. “Did I lose my calling? No. I am a designer for a furniture company, model when I get a gig, draw/paint when I am asked to produce custom art and decorate homes upon request. I never stopped believing in myself and I never stopped doing what I love because others had an opinion. I am living in my purpose but however I am not done with my career. This is just the beginning

 

Continue to dream and live in your purpose.

And if you aren’t living in your purpose yet, you will once you decide in your mind that you are good enough to just do it.

 

Sincerely,

 

Jamie Veni

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Approaching 30, Not Married, & Unbothered.

Before you start reading, I am just 27 but I will be turning 28 soon. But whatever, read. I wrote some good stuff, I promise.

So, I am pretty sure everyone wanted me to write a home decor blog for my first official “blog” on my website. If you did not want that topic then I’m pretty sure you expected it but either way I figured I would touch on something more personal and relatable. Well, let’s not beat around the bush and get to it, shall we.

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I recently saw people on my timeline this year posting a meme saying “Did not get engaged on December 25th.” As if they were throwing shade to those that actually got engaged or just sad that you just didn’t get that ring this year. Or posting hints to get the single fellas to get your digits and marry you.  I highly understand the pressure of getting engaged/married before you turn 30. Your parents want to have a son in law and cute grand babies they can spoil rotten. On top of that, every year approaching 30 is a reminder that your biological clock is ticking. OH! also watching your best friends get married every year and having to buy a bridesmaid dress. Later on, every time you look in your closet you see those 15 bridesmaid dresses. (I only got three bridesmaid dresses just to clear the air… ONLY 3.)

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Another reminder that a girl just can’t find her knight in shiny armour any quicker than Mariah Carey can find her high note again. (Okay, that was a bit harsh because I love Mariah Carey but let’s carry on)

Sweetheart, I know the struggle is real but let’s get real somethings will happen with time.

Wait, now before you get on my case let’s break down why you should be unbothered (like me) about not being married before 30.

Marriage is not an accomplishment, it is work between two partners that love one another.

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It requires God, patience, communication, and whole lot of sacrifices. You have to give yourself fully and there is no room for selfishness. You have to be ready for that kind of commitment. My friends have shown me true love in their marriages. They love their husbands and they also are their best friend. So, it is safe to say I have great examples through my friends. I have watch some of them sacrifice holidays to be with their spouses’s loved ones instead of their own for a major holiday. And yes, sometimes you can’t always get what you want. Yes, that means you have to watch the way you spend so both y’all won’t be broke. (You just might have to give up going to Target every week. I know. How sad! What a nightmare!) Men , hide your kids and hide your credit cards.

DO not believe the HYPE . I have a love/ hate relationship for social media. It creates false images and insecurities. Every thing on social media is not golden I promise you. I have seen way too many couples post their every move and then break up and disappear like nothing happened. (Okay, I am guilty of this and I just stomped on my own toes. I am human. do not judge me. I was in college and in love.) Some people that post their happiness are actually happy but there are those few people that post just to make it seem like they are. I am not saying go to someone’s instagram and look at their pictures and imprint in your mind that “They may not be happy” to feed your own misery and sadness. I am just simply saying “DO NOT BELIEVE THE HYPE”! and Do not let social media stuff get to you. Be happy for others for once people.

There is not an age deadline for marriage/relationship of some sort. I repeat “There is not an age deadline for marriage.” Why do we give ourselves to 25 to get married? You can not even predict your future so why do we think we can tell ourselves at what age we should get married? I will be 28, still single and absolutely loving that I am. Why? Because I personally need the time to make myself available to my future husband by working on myself. I was in a 5-6 year relationship that required some healing and reflecting. I had to have time to figure out myself again and what I really wanted in a future relationship. That kind of reflecting takes time. You can not rush the process. Anything rushed will not last.

Lastly, You are not alone. There are plenty of women that are not married just yet. Woman that are working their butts off and still single just like you. You are not the only one working a full time job, chasing your dreams, and getting a masters. Heck, some y’all are working on a doctorate. I looked at a Steve Harvey show once about making room for what you want. He basically said “In order to receive a blessing you have to make room.” He told his mom that he is getting a new car and every time he mentioned getting a new car she responded  ” But you have not moved your old car yet off the street.” Think about it. Do you have time for a relationship/marriage? Are you in an emotional/physical/mental state for this kind of commitment? Spiritually, are you ready for something that will require you to focus on something other than yourself during this process? How is your relationship with God? Is it good? How often do you read about the roles of a husband and a wife in the bible? Are you ready for what the bible says according to God’s word? Have you made room for love in your heart from previous pain from old relationships?  If the answer to these question are No then maybe you have not made room for your blessing just yet. It is coming but you have to make room. You have to leave a lot of baggage in 2016 and build on what you learned.

I really hope that everyone had an awesome New Year. Even if you spent it alone, you woke up on January 1st, 2017 alive and well. That’s more of a blessing then getting a kiss under the fireworks. One day, you will get that moment but for now build to make that moment happen.

Sincerely,

Jamie Veniimg_05901

What is Veni Décor?

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What is Veni Decor? An interior decorating/home decor focused based blog created and published by Jamie Venice. This blog will not only focused on interior decorating but also every day life experiences and fashion. This platform will also give out decorating ideas to those who need it.

What made Veni Decor? I wanted to share my design ideas to the world. I have been getting several request on social media as well as from friends to help with their homes. I am going to use to platform to also offer people design consultations upon request.

Where are you located? I am originally from Memphis, TN. I have recently moved to Nashville, TN due to a new job. I normally have clients in these two areas but I hope this platform grows where I can helps others around the United States. If Veni Decor grows continuously then I will focus on other countries/continents as well.

Plans for the future with Veni Decor:

I plan to just see where this site takes me. I want this to grow without limitations. A youtube channel is in the works as well. My prayers for this site is to touch as many people as possible. I hope to one day work with every aspect of design from textile design, product development, set decorating, etc. I love to create and exceed beyond everyones expectations of my gift. I hope this platform inspire others to do what they love. Live in the moment. It is 2017, if you are not doing what you love it is that time to do so.

“Phillippians 4:13 I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me”