First and foremost, Thank you for all the support I have received so far on my blog. I highly appreciate every single comment (even the negative ones and I am not being sarcastic here). I appreciate the time everyone took to share my words with your friends and loved ones. I am forever grateful.
I apologize for my absence. I had a bad case of writer’s block. I want to make sure that everything I write is as transparent and relatable as the first. Anywho….let’s get to it!
I often see people as well as myself trying to still figure out what their overall purpose in life is. Have you ever asked yourself this question? What’s my purpose? What am I really suppose to be doing?
Sometimes you find yourself dwelling on that thought. The thought of not knowing. Self doubt causing fears to arise allowing you to believe you are not ready to pursue your purpose. People consistently telling you what you should and need to pursue does not help the situation what so ever. You are then forced to over think things and go down a different path that you did not begin for yourself. What makes matters worst you start wasting time thinking and doing things you wasn’t built to do. Later, you will find yourself settling for what is told by others rather than what your inner being is telling you to do.
My story is simply this. I wanted to be a dentist in kindergarten. Later, I found out that I don’t like teeth like that so…yea. A big no to dentistry. I also wanted to pursue fashion design.. I wanted to be a fashion designer for barbie (lol). I drew clothes and created them for my babies using a CD software game. I often look back on that. I still think about that to this day. My mother pushed me to pursue interior design, so I did. I went to college in the interior design department butI was often mistaken for a fashion design major because of the way I dressed. Nope, I was an interior design major. A creative individual making C’s in color and composition and drafting. My rendering professor told me that I should become an illustrator because I put my heart and soul into my renderings. He also told other as well as myself that I needed to learn how to tone down my renderings but the other students needed to learn how to put themselves in their drawings like myself. It was a compliment to me. I knew how to do things others couldn’t seem to grasp. I was different, however I wasn’t fitting in this interior design world. Everything I seemed to produce was not near to perfection as my professors wanted. In other words, I was too creative for interior design but perfect for interior decorating. Even during my internship, I was told I should be a sales rep and that I knew how to find ways to display home accessories. (Basically, you should sell for vendors and do some visual merchandising. Spoiler alert: visual merchandising is what I do now for a furniture company. Yes, I am pretty much the interior decorator but for a store.) Not something I wanted to hear during my senior year of college. A sales rep? Really? You gotta be kiddin’ me.
Long story short, I graduated college Thank ya Laude with a Bachelors degree in Home Furnishings because they closed down the interior design department.
Fast forward to the present, I am now being to told to start my own design consulting business and pursue modeling. Even though, I work full time now and I am only a close to 30 year old woman that so happens to be too short to model. Eh, we will see people.
We are pushing it a bit with my age and height.
How do you find your purpose when others are constantly telling you what you should do?
There are ways to figuring out what you should be doing my simply listening to yourself. In my story, you will notice that I listened to some advice. I ran towards what seemed logical. I did not however let comments of other to dictate what I decided to do for myself. Listen to yourself. Listen to your intuition. Follow your gut. God gave us free will and our inner voice for a reason.
Do not listen to everything people say, but to some. Some advice given you have to take with a grain of salt. You have to pay attention to people’s motives. They may be giving you this advice to steer you in the wrong path. (In other words, steer you into the path THEY see you in). They could also be helping you find something that you do well. My professor said that I should consider becoming an illustrator because of something I did well. He was not saying ” You should not be an interior designer.” He was simply pin pointing something I did well. Also, things being said by others could be confirmation as to what you really need to be doing. Let’s just say, you prayed on something and a few days later someone points out “Girl/Gentlemen, you should be doing this!” God, could be using that person just to give you the confirmation that you needed. You just have to know when to listen and when to ignore.
When you figure out your purpose make sure to ask God for clarity. I do not believe in jumping into anything without confirmation from God. Finding your purpose is not easy. Fear will take over your mind causing you to doubt, but keeping God in that journey will insure you that everything will be okay.
Your purpose is in something you naturally do. Something you are born with that others can not do as well as you. Are you doing what you love? or Are you doing what is comfortable? Your comfort zone is not a good place to be. If you are not challenging yourself you are not living in your purpose. If you are just clocking into a job and not fulfilling that gift that was given to you then you my friend are not living in your purpose. Your purpose may not just be one thing. It could be multiple things. Most of us are gifted in many things you just have to mentally decide to just do it. Everything you do well is not by consequence.
Where do you think I would be if I listened to what everyone said. Probably, a dentist like I wanted to be in kindergarten. Just because they made money. Even during college I was frown upon for choosing something in the arts to pursue but that was my purpose. I was born to create. I was born to inspire. I was born to serve while using the gifts God gave me. So the answer to the question I asked. “Am I living in my purpose?” Yes. “Did I lose my calling? No. I am a designer for a furniture company, model when I get a gig, draw/paint when I am asked to produce custom art and decorate homes upon request. I never stopped believing in myself and I never stopped doing what I love because others had an opinion. I am living in my purpose but however I am not done with my career. This is just the beginning
Continue to dream and live in your purpose.
And if you aren’t living in your purpose yet, you will once you decide in your mind that you are good enough to just do it.