Five Things I am learning in my 20’s: Life is not how you planned it.

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I can not believe I am turning 29. Whew! One more year before the big 30. Okay, maybe I shouldn’t start a blog this way.

Sounds kind of sad as if I am old.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO MY DANG ON SELF! Okay, thats better. Anyways, back to it.

As my 20’s come to a close, I would like to share a few things I have learned along the way.

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Photography by LaShunda Simmons

  1. Life will not go as you planned. I just might have planned the age I wanted to get married, have kids and a solid career path. Life did not quite happen that way but that’s OKAY. Your 20’s is your learning decade. Spend your 20’s learning and understanding who you are and what you want.
  2. Spending a lot of time with yourself is mandatory. Self LOVE is one thing I have practiced consistently throughout my 20’s. The more I spent time to take care of myself is where I learned the most about myself. You know the motto, “Love yourself first and then you can learn to love others.” The truest statement known to man. Love you. Learn you. Be you.
  3. Your circle of friends will more than likely turn into a dot. You remember those few friends you had in middle school, high school, or maybe even college? Well only a few will make the cut. You will out grow people. You also might feel a little lonely knowing that you have fewer friends. However, those few friends will be all you need. They know you and will keep your best interest at heart.
  4. It is okay to not know what you want to do. Do not stress out when you are not sure about every aspect of your life. Where you want to live? What job/career you want to pursue? Who you want to spend the rest of your life with? Do not sweat or get stuck where you are uncertain. Everyone has a moment in their life when they become uncertain. Just write down what you want and figure what would be best suitable for you.
  5. Doing and being around things that make you happy will become more routine.You will start the know the importance of doing what you love more. The world can sometimes be an hindrance to your overall mood and well being so you will notice that doing what you love is high priority. Block all the negativity out of your life. That includes people and family members that bring you nothing but pain in your life. Good vibes only. Find your happiness.

Continue to live your life to the fullest. You only have one life to live why not make it count. I personally have learned so much by living and listening to others. I am still learning and I thank God for yet another year of life. Also remember, do what is best for your life and not other’s. People will try to tell you what is best for you. You know what is best for you. You know what you want and need. Do not allow people to dictate that. Now go be great! God Bless.

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Photography by LaShunda Simmons

Love you guys,

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Jamie Venice Owner/Writer of Veni Decor

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What I’m focusing on in 2018. Love, Growth, & Prosperity

 

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It is getting closer to that time of the year where we decide to be reflective of our lives. We  start to look back at our New Year’s Resolutions, Vision Boards, and To Do lists to measure our progress of the year. However, I would like to challenge everyone to ask yourself where did you become better.

 

What did you accomplish and focus on that. Become celebratory of the hurdles you’ve jumped.

What did you begin and plan to finish? Make goals to accomplish those this coming up year.

What relationships stayed and which ones disappear? Pay attention to those and nurture them.

We often focus on what we did not do instead of what we have done. Even if it is not much of an accomplishment, you made a step forward.

 

This year, for me, was a year of learning myself. What I can tolerate. What I can no longer tolerate. What makes me happy. What makes me unhappy. When should I speak? When should I not speak? What makes me who I am as a person.

So, with that being said, I have decided to focus on what made me happy this year and continue do more of that. these are a few things I am focusing on coming into the new year.

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Loving more. What I mean by loving more, has zero to do with my love life. Loving everyone that I come encounter with. Just geunienly giving love back to the world. The way this world is headed we all need a little love, right?

 

Living in the moment. Living more in the moment, instead of documenting my every move on social media has helped me this year. I enjoy moments with others and keep those moments close to my heart.

Stopping the over-thinking. I am the queen of over thinking. Even when stuff goes right, I overthink. What if this doesn’t go how I picture it? What if I am being completely used by this man, just for his own personal gain? See how this gets you completely no where? The more you over think, the more you stop moving. I vow to myself to stop the over thinking.

Travel more/Experience More People. I spent way too much time in TN this year. I need to get out a little bit. I will make myself travel more and see the world. I honestly believe, I am not meeting more great people because I have not experienced the world enough.

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Continue getting closer to God. The bible saved me this year. If it truly wasn’t for God, I could not get through this year. With God, I am loved and comforted. The closer I am to him, the more I understand my true self.

Doing what I love more. Not just career wise, but also in a general sense. I have always had the love to help others. It makes me happy really. Nothing brings me more joy than to do something that makes my heart happy.I need to do more of that for sure.

Eliminate Distractions. Social Media, I swear you have been the death of me. I am so distracted by other people’s lives that I found myself comparing my moves with theirs. However, this coming year, there will be none of that stuff. Social Media, you will not win this battle.

Stop making excuses and just do. I make a lot of excuses as to why I do not do something. there is always an excuse. I can not do “this” because of “that”. Well, no more excuses. This road to happiness requires no excuses.

Letting the old things go while replacing them with better things.  I have decided to let things go that do not make me happy or add to my growth completely. You can not have any growth if you are still living in old soil. So for now on, old hurt and mistakes will not define me and my decisions in life. They are hindering me more than anything.

 

What are your goals for 2018? What have you accomplished this year? Share in the comments .Even if you believe you have not accomplished a thing. Be Great

 

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Jamie Venice

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Not-so-Traditional Christmas

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I am not completely against the traditional red and green Christmas decorations but it’s just not my style.

Nevertheless, this year I have been running towards darker tones and hues. Green is still present, however, in the greenery/garland only. Christmas décor is no longer boring, now, you will see more of a mixture of matte black and geometric shapes. I guess you say it’s “minimalistic-modern”.

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Sapphire & Gold

 

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Geometric Shapes,Blues, Gold, ,Matte Black, and a hint of gold. I am seeing more and more of sapphire blue ornaments on Christmas trees. I am also loving that most of the ornaments are in a matte finish. Less sparkly and more matte! You will also see geometric shaped gold ornaments in the mix to give a hint of modern.

 

Green & Neutrals with candles as accents for dining. Greenery is wrapped around candles with little to no additional accent color. If there is an accent, it will be neutral, silver, or gold.  It gives it a moody/modern look to your dining setting. Bringing more mood/ambiance to the dining area. The overall focal point here, is the greenery.

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Geometric & Asymmetrical Wreaths. A different alternative to your typical green or burlap wreath, go geometric and add any greenery as you like. You will probably see a geometric metal wreath on my door step. Asymmetrical Wreaths are also in. Pick your favorite floral, add little green leaves, and have at it.

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How are you dressing up your rooms for the holidays? What colors and such spark your interest this year?

 

Be Bold, Be Blessed. Be Safe.

 

Enjoy the Holidays with your loved ones.

Disclaimer: I do not own the rights to any of these images.

Jamie Venice

Creator/Blogger/Interior Stylist of VeniDecor.com

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Should Home Decor Retailers be allowed to sale cotton stems as Fall home decorations?

OH wait a cotton pickin’ minute, have you lost your cotton pickin’ mind?! You are trying to take cotton stems from us?!

I know, I know. Another black girl talking about something else that offends her in America. However, you are more than welcome to scroll off of this post because this just might hurt your feelings.

Or keep reading if you want to be more informed!

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While I working for a home decor retailer after college, I did not enjoy bringing out the cotton stems every fall. It made me feel somewhat weird and powerless. because I knew the history behind cotton in the fall. I had no clue, however, why I continued to work for this company knowing that every year, they sold cotton stems faithfully. Oh. let’s not forget! They also sold cotton wreaths to match! How cute.

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I guess, at first, I was not aware of the issue that other’s had about it. My college friend Jasmine Hockett-Sweets, better known as Jasmine Sweets, put on snapchat while walking into a home decor retailer saying, “When did this become a trend?!” I nearly giggled to myself because I knew of this trend but never thought twice about how someone else felt about it. (Guess, my crazy butt was brainwashed in the retail life. I was used to seeing this crap every year.) You would think the south would know better. How naïve of me to think so. However, Jasmine was not the only person not here for the cotton stems. While scrolling through facebook, I discovered a article about a woman being angry about seeing cotton stems in hobby lobby. Her response was “this is reminiscent of slavery and those who were focused to pick cotton.” (Daniell Rider, you now my idol, girl. Thanks for speaking up). Ms. or Mrs. Rider, you are correct!

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Now for those who do not know much about slavery and cotton fields I am here to inform you that a retailer that sales cotton stems especially in the fall needs to do their research. Cotton fields were at their busiest in the fall due to the abundance of cotton produced. The end of August approaching fall was considered cotton picking season. So, was does this mean? Since cotton was growing in rapid rates and as high as five to seven feet high slaves had to work longer nights and quicker. The slower they worked, the more they got whipped.  The longer the work day, the less they got to sleep for the next day. Also, let’s keep in mind slaves weren’t done with their day after picking cotton. They had other chores, cutting wood, feeding the mules, you know, stuff of that nature. They also feared of oversleeping and  the consequences that came with tomorrow.

In other words, there were people that were picking cotton for you that were mistreated in the process. They were treated like machines and animals. They were treated like a product. So for those that are desensitized of the issue, you just might want to figure out and research more to understand the struggle of many just to make clothes and other products accessible to you.

So my reasoning for writing this is to spark awareness in a sense. Should retailers be allowed to sale cotton stems? Should they be taken off of shelves because of the offensive message it gives off to consumers? My answer is yes! I also believe Native American attire should be taken out of halloween/costume stores, but that’s a story for a different day. How do you feel about cotton being sold annually during the fall season? Tell me your thoughts. I just think we should stop throwing cotton on things and calling it rustic/ farmhouse.

Sincerely,

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Jamie Venice

A Moment of Wisdom: It is okay, to not be okay

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I need a moment to be completely transparent with you guys. I was going through a lot last month. Something unexpected happened in Nashville that I rather not discuss because I am completely embarrassed about the matter. Secondly, My brand new car got rear ended by a horrible Nashville driver ( a hit and run at my apartments). Lastly, later in the month my uncle passed away. I personally believe that bad things happens in threes, well, in my life any ways.

What’s rather odd but normal,  is that I was acting as if everything was okay. I clocked in and out of work as normal. I smiled and said bye to my coworkers, but while driving back home I wouldn’t feel right. When I got home, I would just cry until I fell asleep.  I was not okay with my life last month. Nothing seemed to be going my way, really. A storm literally hit my life and continued to throw thunderbolts daily. I continued to act like everything was okay. I pretty much used work to keep my mind off of things. Temporarily it worked. No one knew that I was not okay except for a few people that I keep near and dear to my heart.

However, my question is to why do we act like everything is okay when it isn’t? Why do we  paint false images on social media when nothing is okay? It is like we are afraid to be human. We want to be perfect. We want to be seen as perfect and I have to say it is tiring to act as such. No one can relate to perfection. Being transparent is what helps others. Your testimony is what God wants us to share. It is okay to not be okay. It is okay to cry. It is okay to feel emotionally numb for a day. It is okay to feel anger for a few minutes, but you have to continue to keep it moving.

Myleik Teele twitted something that helped me during these bad times.

She tweeted “Every now and then I doubt my abilities. Normal. One thing I don’t do is stand still in doubt. I doubtfully MOVE. Must keep it moving.”

In my doubt, hurt, and confusion, I was not moving forward. I was sitting in self-pity. This month my focus is moving forward, doing things that I love unapologetically, and finding my own ounce of happiness on this earth. With everything going on in this world, we must move forward.

The Lord said in Jeremiah 29:11-14,

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call on me and come and pray to me and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. I will be found by you, “declares the Lord, “and will bring you back from captivity.

If in doubt or worry, Go to God. Especially, with everything that is wearing us down daily in this world.

 

Love you beautiful people and God bless.

 

 

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Fall Home Décor Trends of 2017

Ohhh, Is it fall again? This year is really going passed us. In four months, we will be close to 2018. It is pretty insane as to how fast time goes by. But anyways, with every season comes different home decor trends, however, when researching what is popular this year I did not want to see a chevron pumpkin. (Thank you, God!) Eh, but since I live in the south, I am pretty sure I will see a few chevron pumpkin on a porch or two.

 You know what we can do with chevron pumpkins and burlap? Throw them in the trash!

Do not hate the messenger. Burlap and pumpkins are a bit played out. Sorry to say. Let’s discuss my favorite fall home decor trends of 2017.

 

My Fall Decor Trend Picks for 2017:

 

 

Emerald Green and Blush-You will see a repeat of emerald greens in furniture as wall as wall art. I was excited to see my favorite color pink come into play for this fall season. Blush will mostly be in your accessories and throws.

 

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Brass is going to be used more often in your lighting fixtures, accessories, and coffee tables will have accents of brass. Love it!

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Velvet & Leopard Print– Pillows are not your traditional ” fall” pillows. I am not seeing much of pillows that say “thankful” or “blessed” to put on your sectionals/ sofas this year. They are playing more with fabrics and textures. Velvet is here to stay! Velvet is not only going to be on your pillows but your sofas are in a dark navy. I am completely here for it. You will definitely see a few velvet pillows with leopard print.

 

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Woven Accessories– For those who already have woven baskets in your home, you are definitely in trend. Woven baskets can not only be used for you plants but as your wall art. Hanging woven baskets on your wall adds texture.

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Faux finished walls– Marble wallpaper is here and in trend. If you want an accent wall in your home this is the best time to change it up.

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Lastly but not least,

Bohemian Accents– Bohemian accent rugs and poufs will continue to be seen throughout this season.

How are you guys getting your homes ready for fall? What are you favorites so far for the fall?

 

Best wishes and many blessings,

Jamie Veni

 

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Other’s opinions do not pay the bills

but they do add a load of setbacks in life in general.

People and their opinions I tell you. You can not breathe without being criticize for it. I am not going to lie I listened to what others  had to say about me. Every negative word said from others stayed with me over the years. Beginning to take words seriously, I wanted to change every ounce of myself just to fit into a crowd. I knew that I was different somehow but I no longer wanted to stand out in a negative way. Well, at the time, I perceived it at as negative but later on I discovered that maybe these things are not so negative.

but I must say..these negative things did not stop me from building insecurities.

How does someone face insecurities all together though? Mainly by defining exactly what insecurity you have and then addressing what caused this insecurity thing to come about.

Insecurities are just a result of things we have  heard and experienced in our lives. You have to figure out what you are insecure about and get over it by finding something positive about it. For instance, I am introverted but there are others just like me in this world. I am not alone what so ever. Actually, being introverted is the norm now. Who isn’t nowadays?  Secondly, write down what you are insecure about and what caused you to be insecure all together. After figuring out what caused those insecurities, you can then face them head on.

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Determine if you are receiving constructive criticism verse a random opinion. You basically need to find clarity if someone is really just  saying something out of their butt because they just feel the urge to do so. Ask questions. Why does this person feel this way? If there is little to no feedback, then someone is just speaking on jealously in their own selves and putting it out on you. In other words, GIRL BYE! Two snaps two circles. Now if this criticism is somewhat helpful, listen to it and apply it to your life.

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People that accept you for  who you are, are the only people you should be concerned about. There are people that love the way you are and do no criticize you for it. You have to literally evaluate the circle of people you associate with. If those people consistently find something wrong with you then may be there is something actually something wrong with them. They may be throwing their own insecurities on you or better yet may just be jealous of something your possess.

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I’ve noticed this over the years. A person will point out something that you have in a negative light just because they want what you have.

which goes into another point, pay attention to a person’s motives

Where are these criticisms coming from? Where is this person’s heart when they speak.  Is it to help me or to bring me down? Oh, and do not forget about those people that just want to give you advice just to get credit for doing something to “help” you/make them feel better about themselves.  Don’t you just hate those kinds of people? Do not let someone use you just to fulfill a good deed for the day. You are not a charity case after all.

but back to what I was saying…

 Then you can further figure out what is best for you at this point.  If you figure out that it is not coming out of love then do not allow these people to continue to be around. Ain’t Nobody got time for that!! That includes family members. (I rather not go further on that because that will be a whole blog in itself. Family members can somewhat be toxic as well.) I am also the queen of letting people go little to no warning. So, I might not be the best person to talk to about letting people go and such. Let’s just say, I do not believe in wasting time what so ever. I do not believe in allowin people to collect space in my life when they do not deserve it. Just saying boo.

Personally, I have learned to not allow things hinder me from my blessings and from blessing others. I do not allow people to steal my joy because they are miserable in their own skin. You should not allow it either. Life is too short to allow others to stop you from being yourself just because they do not accept who you are. Eliminate the dead weight and allow yourself to continue to grow and flourish into the person God intended you to be. Be you. Forget what other’s are saying. Walk into you destiny and keep it moving.

And just remember, opinions do not pay the bills unless it has something to do with your business but other than that opinions do not matter what so ever.

With Love and God Bless,

Jamie Veni

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